109 Sensitive Hurt Family Quotes To Help You Heal
“A good family will see your boundaries and move around them, a toxic family won’t even realize they’re there.” – Anonymous
I want to take a moment to talk about something that's been on my mind lately: hurting family. It's a tough topic, but one that I think is important to discuss.
I've had my fair share of family drama over the years. Arguments, misunderstandings, and hurt feelings have all been a part of my family experience at one point or another. And let me tell you, it's not easy.
One of the hardest parts about being in the midst of a hurting family is the guilt that comes along with it. I've found myself questioning whether I did something wrong or if I could have handled a situation differently.
It's easy to get caught up in these thoughts and beat myself up about it. But the truth is, sometimes things just happen and it's nobody's fault.
It's also tough because family is supposed to be the one constant in your life. These are the people you grew up with and have known your entire life.
They're the ones who are supposed to be there for you through thick and thin. When there's a rift in that relationship, it can feel like your whole foundation is shaking.
But at the same time, it's important to remember that family is made up of individuals.
Each person has their own thoughts, feelings, and experiences that shape who they are. Sometimes those things clash, and it can be difficult to navigate.
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One thing that's helped me in these situations is to communicate. It can be scary to have those tough conversations, but it's often the only way to move forward.
I've found that when I'm honest about how I'm feeling and willing to listen to the other person's perspective, we're able to work through our issues and come out stronger on the other side.
That being said, sometimes there are situations where communication just isn't enough.
There are times when it's necessary to take a step back and reevaluate the relationship. It's not always easy to do, but sometimes it's for the best.
At the end of the day, experiencing hurt within your family is never easy. It's a painful and complicated experience that can take time to heal from. But I believe that with patience, understanding, and a willingness to communicate, it's possible to work through even the toughest of situations.
So if you're going through something similar right now, just know that you're not alone. There are others out there who have been in your shoes and come out the other side.
Take care of yourself, be patient, and don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it.
60 Toxic Hurt Family Quotes For Sad Feelings
1. “It always amazes me how swiftly problems can be solved, once you start cutting things off people.” – Joe Abercrombie
2. “This toxic pattern within the broken family system will continue from one generation to the next, until one brave survivor finally ends the cycle of abuse. The dysfunction, bullying, and abuse didn’t start with you, but it most certainly can end with you.” ― Dana Arcuri
3. “As I was growing up, no one in my family got their needs met through respectful negotiation and compromise.” ― Olga Trujillo
4. “Do not be waylaid by a toxic family Whatsapp group. You fought hard to emerge as your own person in real life. Do not succumb to this new medium that replicates all the sad, toxic hierarchies of broken families. Walk out. Do it now.” – Itayi Garande
5. “I am not walking away because I have given up, it’s because I am the bigger person and deserve better.” – Unknown
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6. “Humans can be so ugly sometimes that the ones you love the most would only love to see you fall. It’s a cruel world.” – Sidney Albury
7. “Recovering from family scapegoating requires recognizing that being the ‘identified patient’ is symptomatic of generations of systemic dysfunction within one’s family, fueled by unrecognized anxiety and even trauma. In a certain sense, members of a dysfunctional family are participating in a ‘consensual trance‘, i.e., a ‘survival trance’ supported by false narratives, toxic shame, anxiety, and egoic defense mechanisms, such as denial and projection.” ― Rebecca C. Mandeville
8. “Blood doesn’t make you family. Some of the most demonic and demeaning people in your life share your DNA.” – Temi Ade
9. “You don’t have to leave your whole family in the past, just those who don’t deserve a place in your future.” – Unknown
10. “The fear of abandonment forced me to comply as a child, but I’m not forced to comply anymore. The key people in my life did reject me for telling the truth about my abuse, but I’m not alone. Even if the consequence for telling the truth is rejection from everyone I know, that’s not the same death threat that it was when I was a child. I’m a self-sufficient adult and abandonment no longer means the end of my life.” ― Christina Enevoldsen
11. “Honestly, my family issues are the one thing that get to me, but they have made me so much stronger than I could’ve hoped for.” – Unknown
12. “Family is where you’re meant to be most free, don’t let blood chain you down.” – Michelle Meleen
13. “How ironic that our family should be a safe haven. Our parents and siblings are supposed to love us, accept us, and care for us. They should protect us and support us. Sometimes, our home is where we find the deepest heartaches.” ― Dana Arcuri
14. “Don’t ask why someone keeps hurting you. Ask yourself why you’re allowing them.” – Unknown
15. “There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.” – Unknown
16. “Don’t worry, I am not going to make the effort anymore… you know how to find me.” – Unknown
17. “My friend, you are not alone. No matter what you've suffered, the abuse was not your fault. You didn't cause someone to hurt you. Not as an innocent child, teenager, nor as an adult. Let that sink in. It's not your fault.” – Dana Arcuri
18. “A family can be the bane of one’s existence. A family can also be most of the meaning of one’s existence. I don’t know whether my family is bane or meaning, but they have surely gone away and left a large hole in my heart.” ― Keri Hulme
19. “It doesn’t matter who hurt you, or broke you down, what matters is who made you smile again.” – Unknown
20. “If the family you chose before your birth no longer supports your path towards fulfilling your true destiny, it is never too late to find a new tribe.” – Anthon St. Maarten
21. “I explain to my patients that abused children often find it hard to disentangle themselves from their dysfunctional families, whereas children grow away from good, loving parents with far less conflict. After all, isn’t that the task of a good parent, to enable the child to leave home?” ― Irvin Yalom
22. “Let’s get out of the habit of telling people, “that’s still your mom, your dad, or your sister.” Toxic is toxic. You are allowed to walk away from people that constantly hurt you.” – @bynnada
23. “Family problems come in all shapes and sizes; some are short-lived and easily managed, while others are more chronic and difficult to handle.” – Unknown
24. “Being hurt is something you can’t stop from happening, but being miserable is always your choice.” – Unknown
25. “A child should never feel as if they need to earn a mother’s love.” – Sherrie Campbell
26. “Love is when you’re hurt like hell but you still miss the person who hurt you.” – Unknown
27. “In many respects, the way we were treated by our family ends up being the same treatment we offer the world.” – Unknown
28. “Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.” – Deborah Reber
29. “To avoid being hurt are almost impossible, but if you learn to ignore the pain that makes you even stronger.” – Sharon Fouad
30. “Sometimes you need to give up on people, not because you don’t care, but because they don’t.” – Unknown
31. “You are only going to be as good as the people you surround yourself with so be brave enough to let go of those who keep weighing you down.” – Unknown
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32. “There are some dirty, greedy people out there, and unfortunately I know some.” – Richard Patrick
33. “One of the hardest things to do what you had hoped would last a lifetime.” – Unknown
34. “The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies.” – Unknown.
35. “Maybe I should treat you the same way you’ve treated me. Then maybe you will understand how much it hurts.” – Unknown
36. “Isn’t it sad when you get hurt so much, you can finally say “I’m used to it”.” – Unknow. “Nothing stresses me out as much as my own family does.” – Unknown
37. “It only takes a few seconds to hurt someone. But sometimes it takes years to repair the damage. Cherish the hearts that you love…” – Unknown
38. “It’s sad when certain family members cause nothing but trouble in your life and then they get mad when you decide to cut them off completely and then they make you the bad one.” – Unknown
39. “Stay away from people who can’t take responsibility for their actions and who make you feel bad for being angry at them when they do you wrong.” – Unknown
40. “They burned the bridge, then ask why I don’t visit.” – Unknown
41. “Sometimes you don’t need to hear their excuses or what they have to say for themselves because their actions already spoke the truth.” – Unknown
42. “Isn’t it sad when even your own family doesn’t really know who you are.” – Unknown
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43. “Many men can make a fortune but very few can build a family.” – S. Bryan
44. “I may be the black sheep of the family, but some of the white sheep aren’t as white as they try to appear.” – Unknown
45. “I’m sad, hurt, angry, mad, and disappointed. But you know what? I’ll put on a smile and move on. It will hurt, but I will survive.” – Unknown
46. “Sometimes, being hurt too many times, doesn’t make you stronger, it destroys who you were, who you wanted to be, and makes you who you are today.” – Unknown
47. “Trust gets you killed, love gets you hurt, and being real gets you hated.” – Unknown
48. “You eventually learn to trust no one. Being alone sucks but at least you don’t have to worry about being let down or hurt again…” – Unknown
49. “Sadness is having a dysfunctional family.” – Unknown
50. “Sometimes, instead of being hurt, you should look at betrayal as a gift. It makes it that much easier to sweep it up and toss it out with the rest of the trash. And why is that you ask? Because trash starts to stink… and when it does, it has no more value in your life.” – Donna Schoenrock
51. “Not everyone deserves full access to you, including toxic family members.” – Anonymous
52. “These people were meant to raise me, instead I’ve had to raise them right out of my life.” – Unknown
53. “Toxic family relationships spoil all other relationships unless you remove the poison before it’s too late.” – Anonymous
54. “Some of the hardest people to cut off are family members. But sometimes they are the main ones that need to go…” – Unknown
55. “In the minds of my parents, they are the victims; I am the abuser.” ― Christina Enevoldsen
56. “When you don’t come from a healthy family, you do your best to ensure a healthy one comes from you.” – Steve Maraboli
57. “Wherever there is a major deficit in parental love, the child will—in all likelihood—respond to the deficit by assuming itself to be the cause of the deficit, thereby developing an unrealistically negative self-image.” – Sherrie Campbell
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58. “People who come from dysfunctional families are not destined for a dysfunctional life.” – Bo Bennett
59. “Nothing hurts more than being disappointed by the single person you thought would never hurt you.” – Unknown
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60. “Refuse to inherit dysfunction. Learn new ways of living instead of repeating what you lived through.” – Thema Davis
61. “You may feel guilty for leaving your family behind, but you’ll never regret moving forward.” – Anonymous
62. “Biology shouldn’t be destiny.” – Anonymous
63. “A good family will see your boundaries and move around them, a toxic family won’t even realize they’re there.” – Anonymous
64. “Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it’s the place where we find the deepest heartache.” – Iyanla Vanzant
65. “I don’t understand how family can hurt you more than a total strange could.” – Unknown
66. “Fear of breaking family loyalty is one of the greatest stumbling blockages to recovery. Yet, until we admit certain things we would rather excuse or deny, we cannot truly begin to put the past in the past and leave it there once and for all. Unless we do that, we cannot even begin to think of having a future that is fully ours, untethered to the past, and we will be destined to repeat it.” – Ronald Allen Schulz
67. “You are allowed to terminate your relationship with toxic family members. You are allowed to walk away from people who hurt you. You are allowed to be angry, selfish, and unforgiving. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for taking care of you.” – Anonymous
68. “All parents damage their children. It cannot be helped. Youth, like pristine glass, absorbs the prints of its handlers. Some parents smudge, others crack, a few shatter childhoods completely into jagged little pieces, beyond repair.” – Mitch Albom
69. “Ending the toxic cycle within your own life isn't easy. When you don't come from a healthy family, you do your best to ensure a healthy one comes from you.” – Steve Maraboli
70. “Words don’t have the power to hurt you, unless the person who said them means a lot to you.” – Unknown
71. “It’s not flesh and blood but the heart which makes us fathers and sons.” – Jonathan Schiller
72. “You were being lied to so many times that you know who not to trust. That’s not trusting issues, that’s lessons learned.” – Anonymous
73. “I wonder why I feel I am treated like an enemy in a place where I am supposed to be welcome.” – Unknown
74. “Sometimes you have to accept the fact that some people can’t handle you doing well, having the peace they don’t, or knowing how to receive kindness. Let them go.” – Lavon Fr
75. “If it’s hurting you more than it’s healing you, love yourself enough to let it go.” – Sherrie Campbell
76. “Just because someone is ‘family’ doesn’t mean you have to tolerate lies, chaos, drama, manipulation and disrespect.” – Unknown
77. “When you walk away from a toxic family, you begin the journey of finding your true people.” – Anonymous
78. “Sometimes family was the cruelest form of love there was, for no one could hurt you more than the people who created you.” – SC Stephens
79. “Toxic mothers are image-oriented rather than love-oriented.” – Sherrie Campbell
80. “Sometimes the people closest to you betray you, and your home isn’t a place you can be happy anymore. It’s hard, but it’s true.” – P.C. Cast
81. “Family or not I will cut you off. That saying “but that’s family” means nothing if a family is toxic and means you no good.” – Morgan Sharee
82. “Toxic people condition you to believe that the problem isn’t the abuse itself, but instead your reactions to the abuse.” – Anonymous
83. “Sometimes when the people you love hurt you the most. It’s better to stay quiet because, if your love wasn’t enough… Do you think your words will matter?” – Unknown
84. “If you can stand up to your family, you can stand up to anyone.” – Anonymous
85. “Cutting toxic people off doesn’t make you a bad person, selfish, or weak. Cutting toxic people off means you value your integrity over what other people think about you.” – Unknown
86. “Love them from a distance. Pray for them, wish them well, but don’t allow them to abuse you.” – Kimber Waul
87. “When we are raised in toxic families, we often go through a time period, and for some of us, a lifetime of repeating the toxic patterns we were raised in with other people in our lives. We do this until we decide we’ve had enough pain and choose to genuinely examine our patterns and stop the craziness for good.” – Sherrie Campbell
88. “You don’t get to choose your family, but you do get to choose how they’re allowed to treat you.” – Anonymous
89. “And sometimes family hurts more than anybody else.” – Unknown
90. “It’s okay to cut ties with toxic friends and family you’ve got to prioritize your own well-being.” – Brenden Dilley
91. “Being family is determined more by behavior than blood.” – Unknown
92. “Family… no one can hurt you as bad as they do.” – Unknown
93. “If you’re struggling and your people are just sitting there watching you struggle, they’re not your people.” – Unknown
94. “Cutting people off doesn’t have limits. Family can get cut off too if they are causing you stress. Eliminate any negativity in your circle.” – thegoodvibe.co]
95. “Toxic parents care more about how you make them look than how you actually feel.” – Unknown
96. “Families are homes built on a foundation of trust and love. A toxic family can never be home because the foundation doesn’t exist.” – Anonymous
97. "Toxic family members will see expressions of forgiveness as weaknesses to exploit. Don’t give in to their tactics this way. If you need to forgive them for your own healing, then do it, but keep it to yourself.” – Sherrie Campbell
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98. “I hate that my family can always make me cry, but if I say one harmful thing, I feel like a monster.” – Unknown
99. "The path to freedom is illuminated by the bridges you have burned, adorned by the ties you have cut, and cleared by the drama you have left behind. Let go. Be free.” – Steve Maraboli
100. “Some people in your family will come miles to bury you, but won’t even cross a street to come support you when you are alive.” – Unknown
101. “You don’t let go of a bad relationship because you stop caring about them. You let go because you start caring about yourself.” – Charles Orlando
102. “It’s not love that hurts. What hurts is being hurt by someone you love.” – Unknown
103. “You don’t know hate until your own family comes against you.” – Unknown
104. “In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past but you will find yourself.” – Deepak Chopra
105. “Some of the most poisonous people come disguised as friends and family.” – Unknown
106. “It’s okay to cut toxic family members out of your life. Blood ain’t thicker than peace of mind.” – Anonymous
107. “It hurts the most when your own family betrays you…” – Unknown
108. “They say family’s first, but family is the first to get you hurt.” – Chrisper Malamsha
109. “You can miss a person every day and still be glad that they are no longer in your life.” – Tara Westover
What Are Quotes And How Can They Help Us To Improve Our Lives?
Have you ever heard a quote that just resonated with you? Quotes are little nuggets of wisdom that can inspire and motivate us. They can be a powerful tool for improving our lives.
To me, quotes are like little reminders of what's important in life. They can help us see things from a different perspective, or give us the push we need to keep going when things get tough.
When I come across a quote that really speaks to me, I like to write it down and keep it somewhere visible. It's a little reminder to stay focused on my goals and to stay true to myself.
Quotes can also be a great source of inspiration when we're feeling stuck or unsure of ourselves. They can help us see that we're not alone in our struggles, and that others have overcome similar obstacles.
So if you're ever feeling down or in need of a little motivation, try turning to quotes for inspiration. You never know, you might just find the words you need to take the next step on your journey.
What Are Hurt Family Quotes And How Can They Help Us Make Positive Change In Our Lives?
While we just talked about how quotes can be a great source of inspiration and motivation, there's another type of quote that can be equally powerful: hurt family quotes.
Hurt family quotes are those that touch on the pain and difficulties that can come with family relationships.
While these quotes may not be as uplifting as some others, they can be incredibly helpful in creating positive change in our lives.
When I come across a hurt family quote that resonates with me, it can be a wake-up call to take a closer look at my own family relationships.
It can help me identify patterns of behavior that might be contributing to the hurt or pain, and give me the motivation to make positive changes.
Hurt family quotes can also remind us that we're not alone in our struggles. Knowing that others have gone through similar experiences can be incredibly validating and can help us feel less isolated.
So while hurt family quotes may not be the most uplifting, they can still be a powerful tool for creating positive change in our lives.
Next Steps - How To Incorporate Hurt Family Quotes Into Our Lives
Now that we've talked about the power of hurt family quotes, let's dive into some specific strategies for incorporating them into our lives.
First and foremost, it's important to take time to reflect on the quote and how it applies to our own lives. This can be a difficult and emotional process, but it's necessary in order to create positive change
Once we've had time to reflect, it can be helpful to write the quote down and keep it somewhere visible. This serves as a reminder to ourselves to stay focused on making positive changes in our family relationships.
Another strategy is to use the quote as a conversation starter with family members. Sometimes it can be difficult to broach tough topics, but a quote can provide a way in. By sharing the quote and asking for their thoughts, we can open up a dialogue that might not have happened otherwise.
Incorporating hurt family quotes into our lives can be a difficult but rewarding process. By taking the time to reflect, using the quote as a conversation starter, and remembering that it's just one tool in a larger toolkit, we can make positive changes in our family relationships.
Frequently Asked Questions
As we've talked about the power of hurt family quotes, I wanted to address some common questions I've come across.
What do I do if a hurt family quote is triggering for me?
It's okay to take a step back and give yourself time to process. You can always come back to the quote later when you're feeling more prepared.
How do I bring up a hurt family quote with my family without causing more pain?
It can be helpful to approach the conversation with empathy and an open mind. Remember that everyone has their own experiences and perspectives.
Can hurt family quotes really make a difference in my life?
Absolutely! While they may not be a cure-all, they can be a powerful tool for creating positive change in our family relationships.